A Day in the Life of Me......
Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain.
Published on July 9, 2004 By Kayles In Philosophy
I live in the small mountain town I grew up in.

I was making a deposit for our office today, we just changed banks, and I saw a friend that I used to go to high school with. I was best friend with this girl since 6th grade.

In the past 3 years, she has been married, moved to Denver, moved back here, and been divorced. We haven’t talked much during these past three years. I have been trying to call her and catch up recently. She won’t return my calls.

Well, she works at the bank I was taking the deposit to, I tried to talk to her and she was so cold and distant. I know more about this girl than a lot of other people. I really miss her friendship. I was starting to develop hurt feelings, but it suddenly came to me.

I know more about this girl than a lot of other people!

She’s trying to develop a new identity. She has been through HELL these past few years and doesn’t want to be around someone who reminds her of it every day! I can understand this. I feel the same way sometimes. The only thing that keeps me from doing this is the theory that I need to work through my problems and not hide from them.

If I were to avoid a childhood friend that knew about all of the “bad” things I had done, I would feel like I was running away from myself. I want to look back and say, “Hey, I made mistakes. I learned from them. Look at me now!” I want people to view me in the same light.

This is just my opinion.

-Kayles

Comments
on Jul 09, 2004
I kind of see the point of view of this girl, that sometimes we just want complete change, and to be somebody new and to do that cutting off those from your past seems like a good option. I personally don't agree with that, our past shapes who we are today, if we want to change we have to do it while accepting the person we actually are, sweeping things under the carpet just won't do it, if you can't face the past, how the hell do you fact the future? you're kinder than me, I just consider that behaviour to be rude! Plus I have my ranting head on tonight, that may have alot to do with it!
on Jul 09, 2004
I personally don't agree with that, our past shapes who we are today, if we want to change we have to do it while accepting the person we actually are, sweeping things under the carpet just won't do it, if you can't face the past, how the hell do you fact the future?


That's exactly how I felt! I mean, it's not as if I hold anything she's done, or anything that has happened to her against her! I have had some experiences in my life too!

on Jul 09, 2004
If I was you I'd just leave her to it, I think she'll end up regreting it in the end! I'd love to live somewhere small where everyone knows each other, so nice and friendly, or maybe I'm just deluded, ha!
on Jul 09, 2004
Friendly. Right. Until you date your neighbor's best friend's brother, who has a kid that goes to school with your best friend's husband's kid, who's aunt works with your mother! GEEZ! It gets kind of crazy sometimes!
on Jul 09, 2004
LMAO....Yeah there are downsides, I just think in big cities, people go by and you never have the chance to get to know them, it can be kind of cold! Though I'd hate everyone to know my business!
on Jul 09, 2004
It's so funny, because my coworkers say, "You know, Joe Blow, who works for the City?" And I'll say, "I dated him for a while!" I swear! It looks like I've dated the whole town!
on Jul 09, 2004
Kayles: My hometown is like that, but I've found that I gravitate to small communities. Even here in DC, it feels like everyone knows everyone else... I'll go out and someone will say to me, "I met this really great irish guy bartending at Smith and Wollensky," and I'll respond "oh yea, well, Sean's great isn't he?" I'd prefer not to think I'm a lush, just that the restaurant community in this city is small and inclusive...but maybe I am just a lush. As for the friend...You'll just have to give her space, and then decide if she's worth it if/when she comes around. But I think your analysis is very accurate.
on Jul 09, 2004
...nothing wrong with that! Gotta kiss the frogs to find the princes!
on Jul 09, 2004
Kayles: My hometown is like that, but I've found that I gravitate to small communities. Even here in DC, it feels like everyone knows everyone else... I'll go out and someone will say to me, "I met this really great irish guy bartending at Smith and Wollensky," and I'll respond "oh yea, well, Sean's great isn't he?" I'd prefer not to think I'm a lush, just that the restaurant community in this city is small and inclusive...but maybe I am just a lush. As for the friend...You'll just have to give her space, and then decide if she's worth it if/when she comes around. But I think your analysis is very accurate.


Thanks, Shades. I'll give her time. I just miss her friendship, ya know?
on Jul 09, 2004
nothing wrong with that! Gotta kiss the frogs to find the princes!


Oh, I've kissed many a frog, my dear. Indeed!
on Jul 09, 2004
Me to, I think the princes are keeping well clear of me *sigh*
on Jul 09, 2004
Back in Huntsville I had a friend who knew everyone. This guy grew up there, and everywhere we went he saw someone he knew. Every day at lunch (we worked together), every time we would go out after work, EVERY-FREAKING-WHERE. It got to the point where we would walk into a place, and one of the other of us would just ask, "Ok Brandon, who do you know here?"

She’s trying to develop a new identity. She has been through HELL these past few years and doesn’t want to be around someone who reminds her of it every day! I can understand this.

I've known a few people like that. In fact, one of my friend from Huntsville is doing that right now. He was one of the guys I worked with with Brandon, and was a good friend of ours. But he hasn't responded to any calls or e-mail lately. Brandon just got back from visiting his family down there (He moved to Colorado same time I did as part of the same project), and said that this other guy had cut off all contact with all the people he used to work with. I can understand that, in some cases, since that project turned into a living hell for a lot of us, but he was one of the few of us that stuck together to ride the storm out.
on Jul 09, 2004
Me to, I think the princes are keeping well clear of me *sigh*


Oh Sally, there's a prince somewhere for both of us, I'm sure of it!

"Ok Brandon, who do you know here?"


That's what my friends always ask me. Especially when we go to places like WalMart. Sometimes though, I wish I could put on a pair of sunglasses and fade into the crowd.